This article is so encouraging and uplifting! I know you will enjoy reading this. Every mom needs to hear these truths.
by Aubrey Rissler | Staff Writer for The Snap Mom
There was this great period of time where I was writing for an amazing magazine called Women’s Running Magazine. They publish to a national audience, and each month I got to screen and interview women for the section “Women Who Move.” The basic premise was revealing each individual journey of why these women continued to pursue running, and the way that it had changed each persons’ life.
I cannot tell you how many of these women were moms. Sometimes, it felt like all of them (especially when I was trying to come up with a new spin on a similar story). Yet, each individual story truly did reveal something deeply inspiring. At the end of almost every phone call, I would leave the conversation feeling incredible gratefulness that I was able to hear these stories. Moms, you all have unique and unbelievable stories that could move someone in ways you never realized. You all have to hold on to these truths that I have heard, specifically from mothers, over and over again:
1. You are a runner.
Ok, granted if you don’t run, and you haven’t made your mind up to- no, maybe you’re not. My point here is I got the same repeated statement: “I’m not really a runner,” or “There’s probably someone better to interview.” These are people getting up at 5am to get a run in or running a marathon. These are women beating the odds, fighting the mental fight, putting in the work, the miles, the determination. And it wasn’t until they crossed a certain finish line or some kind of threshold that they gave themselves the right to hold that title. If you are lacing up your shoes every day, ( working hard to support your family, refilling the sippy cup, still trying to breastfeed, making meals, taking care of your family) YOU’RE IT. You’ve made it. You’re doing it. If you are dedicated, then “you are a runner”.
2. Take care of you.
Are you cringing? Or saying, “Amen”? Yes, you are important. Not just the “mom” you- the part of you that needs its other identity. Your body is important, your future is important, and your sanity is very important. Do something everyday that is for you. A lot of moms who spoke to me started off feeling guilt or hesitancy to run everyday. I’ll never forget talking to a mother of triplets who pushed them everyday while running (YES! I’M SERIOUS). She felt guilty, until one day when she asked her children if it was ok that she took them on runs. They replied that they loved going on runs with her. Don’t feel guilty about something that will teach your children productivity, respecting yourself, and goals. That’s a beautiful example.
3. Your body brought you through it.
We all have body issues. Mom and non-mom alike. A lot of interviewees would remark about how they only begin seeing their body in a positive light once they realized what it could do for them. As a mom, on those body-issue days, realize that your body has created a human. Value it in high-esteem, appreciate it, love it. We are in it for life. If there is something that you don’t like about it, and it’s healthy to change, then change it or change your mind about it. Our bodies. What a beautiful thing.
4. Find your rhythm.
There are days where you can run a million miles or do a million things. There are supermom days, and then there are super sorry days. Nothing gets done. One mile gets poorly run. And you know, it’s ok. Know yourself, your pace. Don’t run ahead of yourself in getting too much done on days where you can only cross a few things off the list. Don’t feel bad that some days are harder than others. Know what you can accomplish on good days, and get it done while you can. Know what should wait for another day, and give yourself the break you may need.
5. Just keep getting out there.
Or in there. Just keep pouring love out to the little ones. Just keep encouraging them to get it. Just keep reading to them. Just keep bringing them to the toilet, even when it seems like you’re stressed and tired and your hair will fall out or you’re going to scream. Just keep getting up. Just keep on going because one day all of those miles will lead up to one great big race. You’ll reach that finish line, and something will change inside of you. You’ll feel like you’ve accomplished a great goal that seemed impossible at one time.
You’ll realize that training really does prepare you, and this spirit of love, admiration, and appreciating will rise up. And I hope, I really hope, that you can feel that for yourself: feel appreciation for your hard work, for your persistence, for all of that love you poured out every day. It’s compounding into something wonderful.
Aubrey is a part-time writer and full-time nanny. She graduated from the University of South Florida with a magazine journalism degree. She is passionate about travel, health, and yoga.