Here at The Snap Mom we have the utmost respect for single moms. We love you and we support you.
Please share this in honor of all of the single mommas our there.
by Nikki Pennington | staff writer for The Snap Mom
Dear Single Mom,
We’ve never met, and I am not a single mom. You might be wondering why I am writing you. It is because I am the daughter of a single mother. I wanted to take a minute to encourage you, and hopefully give you a perspective from your child’s point of view.
You may be wondering if you will ever be good enough; if you will ever be able to fill the void or be mother and father to your child. You worry that your child may grow up resentful or feeling less than others because they only have a mother.
I know you have concerns about having to work so much to make ends meet. You come home from working a full time job, only to leave later to the part time evening job to pay all the bills. You send your child to another family member or sitter for one more day. You cry because you spend more time at work than with your child. You wonder if your child will look back and see a life filled with no father and an absent mother.
You stay up late at night working on another paper. You are determined to get a better education so you can only work one job and spend more time with your child. You begin to wonder if the late nights will be worth it. You wake up exhausted and do it all over again.
As a woman raised by a single mother without a father in my life, I know. My mother worked two jobs, attended college full time and struggled to make ends meet. During her college years, we lived with my grandmother. While she worked and attended school, I was with a sitter or a family member (if possible) straight from school.
I am who I am today because I was raised by a single mother. Watching her work both jobs tirelessly to pay the bills and to help fund my extracurricular activities at school taught me dedication. It showed me that mothers, especially single mothers, have a drive and are capable of anything they set their minds to do. Growing up I wanted to be just like my mom, fearless. I never felt shuffled from sitter to sitter. I still have wonderful relationships with both of my babysitters. They are amazing women and help mentor me.
I never missed not having a father in my life. My mom attended all school functions and big events in my life. I had family members that lovingly stepped in and filled any void. Uncles that became my heroes, and a grandfather that became like a father.
Single mom: you are amazing. You are so much stronger than you can ever imagine. You may think you are not doing good enough, you work too much, or you spend too much time with school work. You may want to just give up. The little person that is watching you sees something you might be missing. They see that you are not giving up on them and are willing to do whatever it takes to help them thrive. Single mom: you are MORE than enough. Hold your head up and know that you are doing something that not everyone could do.
The Daughter of a Single Mom
About the author:
Nikki is a stay at home mom to three high spirited boys. Three years ago she became a motherless daughter after losing her own mom to terminal brain cancer. When she is not playing the role of referee for the boys, she spends her days trying to encourage and inspire others that are on the grief journey.