I always said I would never be that person. The one that had a time frame as to when they would have kids or have certain things done. I was always laid back and easy going, taking life as it would come. Then I had my first child at the age of 25, and that laid back me was out the window. I was suddenly consumed by deadlines. I now had a number of how many children I would have, three to be exact, and I would have had them all by the age of 30. I put so much pressure on myself and following this nagging biological time clock. It was telling me that having children after the age of 30 was not a good idea, that I was running out of time and fast!
Here I am, 30 with three amazing boys, and wanting another child. My life is not where I had it planned out to be by the time I was 30. I see others that I grew up with that had a plan and are following and sticking to that plan. My life on the other hand has taken some detours.
So the day I turned 30, I busted my biological clock. After all, it’s mine and I can do what I want with it. I was no longer going to allow it to dictate my life. That stupid clock was doing nothing but stressing me out, giving me anxiety, making me miss out on important moments for fear of not having ones that didn’t exist yet. I realized that having more babies after the age of 30 wasn’t such a bad thing (gasp).
Here are three reasons you should bust your biological clock
(Maybe you don’t have to bust it like I did, but at least take out the batteries or push the snooze button)
1. Having children after 30 is OK!
Most friends I chat with like myself, also have this idea that having children after 30 is a no-no or as if that is the stopping point. I feel now like this is not accurate. I feel like having a child after 30 is going to be amazing because I am finally feeling comfortable with myself and my abilities as a mother.
2. You don’t have to have a lot of children!
I feel like our biological clocks never let us feel like having one child at any point is good enough. It makes us continually feel like we are running out of time even after we have a child. Then we are running out of time to have another child then another. Lies; it’s telling you lies.
3. Don’t compare yourself to others!
We’ve all heard this and it’s so true when it comes to your biological clock. It doesn’t matter if everyone you graduated high school with has 7 kids by now. That’s great for others, but you don’t have to do that. Don’t let your clock make you feel like you need to rush it. You are choosing to take that biological clock and tell it who’s boss.
So ladies, get out there and bust your biological clocks. Take back control and know that you will have a family in due time. Maybe it won’t be in the time frame you had imagined for you, but it will still be perfect timing.