by Amber Yoder | guest writer for The Snap Mom
Feature Image: Alyssa Shrock Photography
What Makes a Fun Mom?
My name is Amber Yoder, and I am 29 years old. I have a 1 ½ year old daughter who is one of the coolest people I know. I’m originally from Jacksonville, Florida where I learned to surf and met my sexy husband of 8 years (Shane Yoder). Now, I live in Sarasota where I have continued to surf while picking up other enjoyable hobbies along the way such as: sailing, snorkeling, fishing, hiking, capoeira, paddle boarding, and kayaking.
We are currently restoring a live aboard sailboat and plan to live aboard in 2016. We are blogging about the progress at www.giventosea.com
Here are my 10 tips:
1. Create fun adventures
Don’t get consumed on laundry, dirty diapers, meal planning, and cleaning the house. Instead, plan at least 1 weekly outing such as the park, the beach, or a bike ride.
2. Go outside
Kids love being outside and love to explore the wilderness. Let them get dirty and don’t be afraid to jump in the mud with them. It can be peaceful for mom and fun for kids.
I know not every family can afford to travel, but I highly encourage saving any money you can to take your kids on a fun trip. We have taken surf trips in the camper and out of the country. We also enjoy hiking/fishing trips to the mountains and have made some of the most amazing memories.
4. Don’t worry about them getting hurt
After watching my child shoot out of my vagina like a cannon…I realized that babies and children are way tougher, stronger, and resilient than we think. If I based every decision on whether or not my kid could get hurt, I would never let her leave the bed!
Random dance parties with your kids are always needed…especially when you’re stressed. Don’t be afraid to play a little Kesha or some T-swift and “break it down!”
6. Scrap the nap
I am a firm believer of a good nap for my child, and I also believe that naptime is sacred time for moms. BUT, don’t let the nap be the dictator of your life. My kid has fallen asleep on beaches, airport tables, restaurant chairs, and the list can go on because we got out and had a fun and adventurous day.
7. Don’t let them hold you down
Just because you have kids doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun or that you have to stop doing the things you loved. My husband told me the week Eli was born, “we will not let our lives be controlled by someone who can barely hold their head up.” I still live by this. It’s harder to be a fun mom, but totally worth it!
8. Surround yourself with other fun moms
They can be hard to find, but there are some super fun moms out there that also love to adventure with their kids.
9. Lead by example
Show them how much fun it is to swim in the ocean or touch a slimy fish. If they see you do something fun, they will try to mirror your behavior.
10. Take time to have fun too
I recently went on an all women’s surf trip (Surf With Amigas) by myself and learned that this is so needed for moms. I came back refreshed and recharged to give my child what she needed. I also was reminded who I was and what I love to do.