An Open Letter to Moms of All Boys

Love Nikki’s honesty. #3 had me in tears because it’s such a powerful thought!

by Nikki Pennington | Staff writer for The Snap Mom

Dear Mom of All Boys,

I see you in the clothing store with all your boys. You intentionally pass through the girl’s side of the store, slowly scanning each adorable dress and headband. In your mind, you begin envisioning what it would be like to be able to purchase that for your own daughter. Your mind starts wondering. You begin questioning how it would feel to have a mommy-daughter day, to have a shopping buddy, and a little head of hair to fix.

I see you sitting in the corner at the friend’s baby shower. The friend that is receiving all the pink and purple items. She is getting all the cute dresses, shoes, and future matching outfits. Inside your heart hurts, you wonder what it would feel like to have a mother-daughter relationship with your own child.

I feel you holding back the tears when the ultrasound technician announces it’s another boy. You feel guilt because you are so thankful to have another sweet child. Yet, deep down you were hoping, just this once, it would be girl. You suddenly begin to feel terrible for even caring about the gender as long as the baby is healthy. It’s still a hurt that nobody can see because you hide it.

I hear you crying to your husband that you don’t want to be ungrateful for being blessed with healthy boys. You just always wanted a little girl to call your very own. You wonder what she would look like, how she would act, and what she would be when she grew up.

I know all about you because I am that mom. A mom that secretly wanted a little girl and cried in the ultrasound room the day she found out she was having a third boy. A mom that is now at complete peace with all boys. A mom that has realized how that it’s a big title to be a Mom of Boys. Can I share with you three things I have learned over the years of being a mom to three boys? Three things that might change your outlook. Three things that might give you a new perspective on how important our job is as moms of all boys. Raising boys is not for the faint of heart.

1. You are raising someone’s future husband

This is such a profound duty that is not to be taken lightly. The future wives of our boys are out there now depending on us to raise, prepare, encourage, and mold their future spouses. I want to give her a man that is defined by respect, honesty, and love!

2. You are raising a gentleman

This world is filled with men. However, we want this world to be filled with is above-average men. We want gentlemen: men that strive to do their best in every faucet of their life, with manners, and respect for everyone they encounter.

3. You are raising a father

One day, your son might grow up to be a father. How you raise him now, he will one day use to raise his very own children. Your loving care, compliments, encouragement, and support will all carry on to his parenting.

The next time your heart feels heavy with longing for a girl, find comfort in knowing that raising all boys is going to impact the life of many, especially his future wife and family. Remember that we will get a girl! I will have three daughter-in-laws.


nikkiNikki is a stay at home mom to three high spirited boys. Three years ago she became a motherless daughter after losing her own mom to terminal brain cancer. When she is not playing the role of referee for the boys, she spends her days trying to encourage and inspire others that are on the grief journey.