I guess I can see where she is coming from, wanting to experience having both genders, but this seems a tad extreme! What are your thoughts? Is this something you think is wrong? Or would you do the same?
Rose Costa went through seven rounds of IVF for $100,000, despite having no fertility issues, in order to conceive a girl after having two sons. And, she tells Yahoo Parenting, “It’s been worth all the money we spent.” (Photo: Shannon Faulk)
Throughout her childhood growing up with two brothers, and as an adult raising two boys, Rose Costa kept dreaming about having a daughter to do “girly things with together,” she tells Yahoo Parenting.
But instead of leaving it up to fate, the Frisco, Tex. computer database developer, 36, and her husband, Vincent Costa, 37, spent $100,000 and endured seven rounds of in vitro fertilization (IVF) — despite having no fertility issues — in order to ensure that their third child would be a girl.
Now four months pregnant with a daughter they’ve already named Olivia, Rose has decided to speak out about the process of “family balancing,” via pre-implantation genetic diagnosis (PGD): a component of IVF that allows patients to determine the gender of their embryos, after which they can opt to only transfer embryos of the desired sex into the mother’s uterus.
“I love my boys very much and wouldn’t change them for the world, but having a girl is really important to me,” the mom to sons Gabriel, 15, and Igor, 13, told the New York Post on Tuesday. “You feel incomplete as a mother until you have a girl.”
The Costa couple at home in Texas (Photo: Shannon Faulk).
Rose tells Yahoo Parenting, “I know it’s something a bit controversial, but I also know that a lot of people, women especially, who have this kind of desire would like to know more about this; how it works and what they could do.”
The PGD procedure itself — which determines if an embryo has any genetic conditions, as well as reveals the gender — is “really nothing new,” Shari Brasner, an obstetrician at Mount Sinai Medical Center in New York City, tells Yahoo Parenting, noting that patients often go through it for health concerns. But choosing not to place embryos back into the mother because they would result in a baby of undesirable sex is going a step further — one that’s been banned by some European countries and decried by ethical opponents as a means of creating “designer” babies.