This line got me good… “It’s ok to have days where the weight of motherhood is heavy on your shoulders.”
by Nikki Pennington | staff writer for The Snap Mom
To The Mom Who Hates Motherhood,
I’ve read your posts online and listened to your tired voice over the phone. I’ve even heard your name come up in the local mommy and me group because you just don’t seem happy being a mom. Maybe you feel like this whole mom thing just wasn’t cut out for you: the tantrums, the responsibility, the isolation. The days where the never-ending chaos and stepping on one more lego could send you over the edge. Can we talk, just you and me, friend to friend, mom to mom?
I know you see other moms around you with the children that appear to never have meltdowns. They have manners, they sit still, and they follow directions. Your child is running around, non-stop, yelling “SNOT” really loud, and may be throwing themselves on the ground mid-tantrum right now as you read this.
Maybe you feel like motherhood robbed you of a future. Maybe motherhood was the reason you had to leave high school or college. Maybe it was the reason you had to leave that fancy corporate job where raises, recognition, and long lunch breaks were your days. Now they consist of puke, and reminding the little people that it’s not appropriate to scream “poop” out loud in a public setting.
You feel like you ask yourself many times a day, “How does everyone else do this??” Some days you can’t find the energy to get out of the house. You see the other moms posting on facebook about their outings and pinterest projects, and you suddenly feel downright terrible at this motherhood thing.
Sweet mom, can I share something with you? It’s ok to have bad days. It’s ok to have days where the weight of motherhood is heavy on your shoulders. Things are not always what they appear to be, sweet friend.
We all mess up in this thing called motherhood. We all have the days that are not fit for Facebook. We are together! We abandon the grocery cart fully of groceries in the middle of shopping… We’ve get tired of repeating ourselves with, “Please stop jumping off the couch.” “Don’t pull your sister’s hair…”
We wonder if we aren’t doing something right…if we weren’tcut out for motherhood. Then something amazing happens… we give ourselves grace; we get back up to a new day, and we start over. We remember those careers, degrees, and fancy jobs will be there when the biggest and hardest tasks of our lives are complete.
This thing called motherhood is not for thefaint of heart.
Dear mom that hates motherhood, we are all in this together. Let’s learn to be honest with each other, share our bad days and good days without judgment. Let’s share them and find just grace and love.
A friend that is here for you
About the author:
Nikki is a stay at home mom to three high spirited boys. Three years ago she became a motherless daughter after losing her own mom to terminal brain cancer. When she is not playing the role of referee for the boys, she spends her days trying to encourage and inspire others that are on the grief journey.