What Happens When Moms Say No

Ohhhhhhh mamas, this is some serious truth right here! Listen up and share with your BFFS!


by Nikki Pennington | staff writer for The Snap Mom

Maybe you thought this article was going to be about the art of saying “no” to your children. This is about us just saying no. We say yes to the play dates, girls’ night out, moms’ night out. and extended family dinner dates… Before we know it, we have overbook and overextended ourselves. Why? Out of fear of not being invited to the next event? Out of fear of missing out on something? Out of fear of your friends or family becoming upset with you? We’ve all attended those events and later wish we would have just said “no.”

Well ladies, it’s time to start cleaning up your schedule and saying no. After all, it’s so easy for our toddlers to say it, so we can too.

1.    Does it benefit you?

Maybe you think that is a selfish thing to ask, but as moms we need to be selfish with our time spent away from our family. Are you going to walk away from this event you are saying yes to feeling more empowered as a woman, wife or mom? If it’s not something that is going to help you come back home and strengthen your family then you should say no.

2.    Will you regret it later?

Is it going to be some thing that you go to and have “yes guilt” from as I like to call it? The event where you walk away feeling like you should have said no and your time could have been better spent at home with your family? Time is something you can never get back, if you are going to regret saying yes later then just say no now.

3.    Don’t feel the need to explain

When you say no to that Mom’s Night Out, don’t feel the need to give a list of all the reasons why. You are a mom first and your mom friends should understand that choosing your family says a lot about you. There will be plenty more nights for a Mom’s Night Out.

4.    Never Say “Yes” quickly

Give yourself some time to think it over even if it sounds like fun. Also, make sure you wait to say “yes” closer to the event. That way you know what might come up in between.Saying no too quickly sets you up to have to say no later on. Ultimately, that could steal a spot for another mom that might want to attend the event you originally said yes to.

5.    Priorities and boundaries

Reevaluate your priorities and then set boundaries up for yourself monthly. Allow yourself one to two mom’s night outevents a month and then once those are booked, your excuse can now be “No, so sorry I’m already booked.” 😉

At the end of the day it’s great to say “yes” to fun mom events and extended family events. Saying yes too much can leave us feeling overwhelmed and leave us with regret.

We need to make sure we practice saying “no” because being a “yes” mom becomes exhausting.

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About the author:

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Nikki is a stay at home mom to three high spirited boys. Three years ago she became a motherless daughter after losing her own mom to terminal brain cancer. When she is not playing the role of referee for the boys, she spends her days trying to encourage and inspire others that are on the grief journey.